ℒℴѵℯ…..is such a blissful word, that we feel the comfort of mom’s lap immediately. Loving and being loved is such a valuable thing. As Mother Theresa rightly said,
“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.”
Businesses always look for emotional requirements of human beings. For example, nobody would like to spend time fighting to bargain for $5 medicine and ask it for $1. Businesses know it – the sense of urgency – people would spend a lot to see their loved ones recover and smile again. Business people also can clearly see the need and hunger for love, so they came up with so many product ideas and have sold millions of dollars worth products and services related to love!
Love Love Love Everywhere!
Relationship advice, sexual enhancement tips, tips on looking seductive to your partner, getting back your ex, divorce advice, DVDs teaching people how to lead a happy married life, sexy inner wears, books on how to date women, books on pleasing your man, condoms, pills to prevent pregnancy, anything with love written on it or the heart shape embedded in it – pillows, rings, lockets, jackets, toys, t-shirts etc. I know not all these things are symbol of love, but I list them because some of them are consequences of love-making.
“If you get someone close with your looks, they may leave you for looks one day.”
Love isn’t all about having physical relationship. Because beauty obviously fads. So your relationship must be based on strong characteristics of your attitude towards each other. The love and care for each other irrespective of the bad/good situations your life brings up to you. Take those adverse situations as challenges. Fight and overcome bad situations together.
Never let them feel inferior or disabled. Love can help overcome the horrific of horrific situations. Your problems are nothing. Don’t focus on wrong things – problems, worries, tensions, disabilities, fears. Focus of love, ability, care, possibilities.
Energy flows where focus goes.
Advice on opposite sex
There’re lot of articles online, videos and books written on this subject. But still you can’t guess exactly about your life partner’s likes and dislikes easily. The best way is to learn by communicating with your partner, simple. Why spend so much to know it all by yourself when the best person to know it from is beside you.
“The confident ask questions to learn what will connect. The insecure just keep talking with the hope something will stick. Be confident.”
You can observe their body language, you can know their interests by looking at what they watch on TV, what they admire about etc. Never ever take your partner for granted. Treat them with respect. Treat them like an individual with similar opportunities like yourself. Respect their freedom. Respect their feelings. Respect their body.
Your body is the place where you need to live for the rest of your life. Care for it. It needs enough care and nutrition. Feed it properly and keep it in healthy condition. Treat it like temple.
“The best curve I love on your body is your – SMILE. Keep smiling 🙂 “
Value yourself first. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to please and get approval from the wrong one. Let them always know that, your vision is what you value the most. Don’t loose your dignity for the sake of someones approval.
Pleasing the opposite sex shouldn’t be the only aim of your life. There’s a bigger purpose for it. Concentrate on your goals. Stick on to your vision. Have enough love for yourself too. Because you can’t be sure when the other person you’re loving so much more than yourself will stop loving you. So have enough love for yourself too. YOU actually deserve it.
“I see guys spending weeks, months trying to make a girl happy. I see girls waiting endlessly for their guys to call. Is that all your life is about? For your lover to validate you? Or to make a relationship work? Instead, why not focus on yourself – working on your goals, learning something, being a more positive person and helping others. That will boost your self-esteem far more than any lover ever could. Next time that guy or girl treats you badly, say thank you. Say thank you for reminding me that I need to make myself the focus of my life, not you.”
— Chetan Bhagat
Love Marriage vs Arrange Marriage
I’m not an expert in this subject. But I can still observe: arrange marriages these days are much like agreements between two broken hearts. Not all arrange marriages btw, only some. If you have someone who truly loves you, keeps thinking of you, cares for you, who makes you smile, who makes you feel comfortable, who is responsible, who checks up on you often to see if you’re ok, who watches out for you and wants the very best for you, is there a point in letting them go out of your life ? ..you can take risk. Do not just leave the person and his/her love for the sake of money/luxury life you may get with another person. You can’t eat money. Look how much money you may need for your life and your future child’s life. Do you really need millions of dollars? What if the million dollar guy/girl doesn’t treat you well. What if his/her character and conduct is absurd? – I’m not insisting you, people with money are bad. But I only argue that, you can hold the hands of your love and achieve anything in this world – yes, anything – so why not work together for your dreams?
On the other hand, if you’re going after arrange marriage, you can always fall in love with your partner after marriage. Don’t act as if married people can’t love each other 😛
“If you don’t fight for what you want, don’t cry for what you’ve lost.”
Sometimes, you can only feel something by its absence. By the empty space it leaves behind. Remember great love and great achievements always come with great risk. Do your best, but never mourn for failure. Learn from your mistakes. The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you at some point in your life. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for. Don’t behave childishly by blaming each other. Instead, accept the reality and move on. Remember – this too shall pass. I know, it is easier said than done. But you’ll somehow need to get well soon and start living your purpose, your passion. Remember, you have a vision which is greater than you. Love should never separate a man from his personal legend. Usually, it’s when they see you doing better without them,that’s when they want you back in their life. Do not chase the wrong ones. I know its hard to say goodbye to someone you wanted to spend all your life with. Its Hard to let go of what you thought was real. But it is when you stop chasing the wrong ones, the right things start happening. It’s bad to let the wrong one stay in your life lot longer than they actually deserve. Close some doors – not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere. Get out of the deadlock. And don’t keep looking back, you’re NOT going that way.
“Be with someone who is proud to have you ..”
Often times we get out of our comfort zone and do things which would help our loved ones. That’s the power of love. And all the magic happen outside our comfort zone. Keep pushing yourself and keep learning and improving yourself. We are captives of our own identities, living in a prison of our own creation. Break it and let the real YOU emerge. Love unconditionally. If you’re not madly in love, well there’s no point of being in love at all. Redefine your love, if that’s what you need in the first place, before you proceed any further.
“Relationships last long because two people made a choice. The decision to keep it, to fight for it, and to work hard for it.”
Love is responsibility
Once you get your life partner, you shouldn’t forget your responsibility for your parents, brothers, sisters and to yourself. Be responsible. Be responsible to your partner too. Do not take your love for granted. Love your love each day, as if it’s your first day with your love.
5 success and life lessons I’ve learnt over the years:
1. Very few people actually love you, and you can count them on your fingers. Hold on to them.
2. Many people will love you if you’re successful. They’ll stop when you’re not. They love success, not you. Don’t take them seriously.
3. When you are not successful, few will believe your dreams. You are one of them who do. Sometimes, you’ll be the only one.
4. Despite having dreams, will and focus, sometimes your motivation will drop. Lift yourself back up to fight again. It isn’t easy. That is why so few make it.
5. People who come first in class don’t do the best in life.
People who understand people, their field and themselves do.
– Chetan Bhagat
Are You Single ?
Don’t worry too much thinking if you’ll get a good girl/boy. What she/he might be doing right now etc. I’ve heard this so many times from so many people: Good girl/boy gets bad boy/girl, and bad girl/boy gets good boy/girl. Come on, stop thinking and emotionally feeling about such myths. We all know karma follows -> So whatever you’re, be a good one. Be the type of person you want to meet. Be awesome. Show your love towards your daily activities. Your family people. Your work. Your friends. Your life. Because you deserve Love in everything you do. Be thankful to everything you already have. It’s not happy people who are thankful. It’s thankful people who are happy. Have enough love. Be happy. Let happiness be the way of your life. Be the ℒℴѵℯ…..
“The higher you build the walls around your heart, the harder you fall when someone tears them down.”
..above all, have patience. God has perfect timing – never early, never late. It takes a lot of faith but it’s worth the wait.